Truth or Dare
Yesterday, I blogged about how Abundant Networking is a process of
unlearning your fears about networking, and more importantly, about
yourself.
These fears take on countless shapes and sizes. At their worst, they may even have you fearing that you'll look like our friend the spitting lama over there to our left when you go to a networking event.
What they all have in common is that they keep us from being who we naturally are and from doing what we CAN do.
They keep us playing smaller instead of living into our greatness. They keep us from being the Abundant Networker that we are.
So how do you begin to deal with these fears running around in your head?
In my book, Coaching Into Greatness, I give my readers a two part test that is easy to use. Called the Truth or Dare Test, this exercise can be utilized by anyone in any situation to identify and move past the fear in their mind.
Ask yourself:
What evidence do I have that this is true?
What is the fear grounded in? Do you have any proof?
99.99% of the time, you will never be able to find out proof that it's
real. That's why we call it a fear - false expectations appearing real.
The 2nd question is:
How does thinking this way serve me?
Our fears always
serve us in some way. The question is whether it is positive or not.
Fears tend to keep us safe and comfortable, doing what we've always
done. The problem with that is that it keeps us safe and comfortable,
doing what we've always done.
There's no question your fears are serving you. But is it the way you really want to be served?